I am a filmmaker, so people contact me all the damn time. Emails. @’s on twitter. Phone calls. Texts. Blind intros. Approaching me at cafes or theaters. Calling my reps. Periscope comments. Comments beneath my articles. Trolling (which is the 2015 equivalent of taking out an ad in Variety and hoping the person may notice).
I’ve given a lot of thought to all the reasons people contact me – and what they seem to hope to get out of it. Below are many of the reasons people contact me. I will feel free to update this guide as I think more about this.
1. You don’t know why you are contacting me. Not really. Not deep down.
I suggest you retrace your steps. What is your goal in this interaction? Thousands of years of history has trained us to believe that women are supposed to help others. Women are supposed to hide their own light, helpfully answer questions, support and encourage, obey and respect. If you have decided to contact me for any of the following reasons below, chances are you unconsciously want me to do that for you. You perceive that I seem to be moving in a direction you want to go in, and by contacting me, you may draft off and even use and overtake my momentum for yourself. None of this is conscious. Culture teaches us this is how it’s supposed to go – like I should be happy that I can help you by subtly transferring my extremely hard-earned momentum to you in a culturally sick exchange that seems natural only because it is mostly unspoken and has taken place over the course of most of human history. So, even though you either don’t know why you’re contacting me or have mostly good reasons at heart for doing so, really think about how you got to this point. Think about the systemic transfers of power and visibility and wealth that continually happen from women toward men. Consider therapy. Group meetings. Workshops. I hear Esalen is good and offers a “shared sleeping bag space” for a very low fee. There are any number of resources that will help re-set your compass that don’t involve me transferring anything I have of value consciously or unconsciously to you.
2. I have signaled that I don’t know my place. You feel called to put me back in my place.
You’re right. I don’t know my place. That’s why I’m good. Go back to step one.
3. I attacked a Great Man.
Part of what filmmakers do is express their opinions about films in public. I have noticed that when my opinion appears to be attacking a Great Man – a well-regarded white male director or screenwriter – I get dressed down by well-meaning prominent members of the film community. As if, unconsciously, they sense a threat to the Natural Order in me, and they feel called to shut me down. But in doing so, they are not stopping to think about the fact that younger artists attacking those who came before is how art gets made. Diverse artists attacking the establishment is the nature of art. Their instinct to shut me down is born of the corporatism that has turned the film community conservative and establishment-preserving. It’s why these Great Men are making bad movies that need calling out. Go back to step one.
4. I remind you of your mom.
I am an extremely loving, nurturing person, but not everyone had loving, nurturing moms the way I did. Some people’s moms were withholding, others manipulative, others controlling. The truth is moms and all women are allowed the full range of behaviors and personalities that men express. If you are reacting to a trait you perceive in me that reminds you of your mom, you are almost certainly projecting a deeply ingrained picture that you see everywhere you go. It’s not anything in me you’re reacting to, it’s in you. Go back to step one.
5. I made you feel rejected by ignoring you / canceling drinks / otherwise signaling that I’m busy.
I am busy and getting busier. I am not intentionally blowing you or anyone off, and I’m really not interested in hurting feelings. I just don’t fuck with pointless drinks anymore. If we have business to conduct — aka you can hire me — great. Take me to lunch or dinner. I am always down for free food at one of LA’s many fine restaurants. Or if we are dating — same. Otherwise, I have movies to make. I didn’t reject you, I’m just busy. Go back to step one.
6. I make you feel like you can’t be yourself around me.
This is a classic expression talked about in Gender Studies departments. People say this when women “don’t know their place” aka when women verbalize uncomfortable realities that keep us poor, unemployed, disliked and subservient but that we’re not supposed to discuss because it makes the dominant group “feel like I can’t be myself around her.” If being yourself includes enjoying the spoils of my subjugation, then yeah, you can’t “be yourself” around me. Go back to step one.
7. I make you uncomfortable.
Openly discussing the realities that inordinately help one group while taking the energies, resources, ideas and culture of other groups is not supposed to make you feel comfortable. It’s not safe. It’s actually dangerous in a business climate that’s totally dominated by mega-corporations. But great art does not come from a safe space. If you got into art to feel safe, good luck to you and the art you make. Go back to step one.
8. I need to be corrected.
Men love correcting women. It’s like a battery source inflating your sense of ego and entitlement. Even if I’m factually, provably, demonstrably wrong, and you could prove it in a reputable scientific journal, ask yourself this: would you correct a dude friend in the same way you’re about to correct me? Worse, are you about to correct me on a subject that is mostly a matter of opinion or an issue that is widely debated or hard to prove? Don’t correct me you fucking idiot. Go back to step one.
9. I am employed.
This is a big contact interface for a lot of people. In a town where 96% of studio movies are directed by men, there still seems to be a lot of anger toward me over the simple fact that *I have a job.* Like, the feeling is – “96%? We can’t get that to 100% What are we doing wrong here? Are we not intimidating and harassing our Womens JV Team enough?” There is visceral anger toward the idea of a woman being in charge. A woman creating the entire world of a movie in a screenplay. A woman ordering crew and actors around on set. People don’t like it, and they can’t even articulate why. But they certainly seem to want to contact me and do a little spitballing about why. Go back to step one.
10. People want to hear what I have to say.
This is one of the most dangerous items on this list. One of the most revelatory changes social media wrought is a whole crew of women and people of color who were historically shut out of establishment media who found it easy to build audiences of their own because their voices were interesting, valuable and compelling. Without oppressive structures keeping us out, the democratic nature of platform publishing showed that people want to hear what we have to say. Of course, with more people listening — aka increased visibility — came increased harassment. Because the idea of one of the Others getting listened to is just intolerable for some people. Go back to step one.
11. You want to tone police me.
Tone policing is when – instead of apologizing for oppressing someone – you let the other person know they are overreacting or too angry or their tone has upset you in some way, so now you are the victim, and they (your victim) are now victimizing you. For reacting emotionally. To a legitimately bad thing. Pretty fucked up huh? Go back to step one.
12. I am emasculating you.
Men are just as much the victims of toxic masculinity as women are. Whatever standards or strictures of masculinity you believe are inside you are actually imprisoning you, by our culture. You deserve as much gender freedom as I do. Nothing I say or do can take qualities away from you. You deserve to feel safe. You deserve to explore the full complement of who you are as a human. You deserve respect as a human. As I do. Me reaching beyond my culture-set limits as a woman is not emasculating, it’s pro-humaning. You may want to consider setting down some of those masculine limits you’re holding on to so tightly. Go back to step one.
13. I am embarrassing myself, women or the cause.
That is something you are feeling. I feel fine. Go back to step one.
14. I am embarrassing you.
You don’t represent me. Go back to step one.
15. I don’t show enough respect.
Showing respect is not how you make art, and it’s not how you make change. Go back to step one.
16. I am not subservient in the manner you prefer.
I am not subservient at all. Go back to step one.
17. You are a feminist and what I say makes you mad.
This is a favorite charge that gets thrown my way. I think that people – especially men – think that saying they are a feminist automatically makes them experts on a controversial topic that’s been a moving target since the days it was invented. Even if you really are a feminist, which is often debatable, it doesn’t matter if what I say makes you mad. That doesn’t mean what I say is invalid. All it means is you personally, who is probably uninformed or doesn’t understand what I’m saying, doesn’t like it. Go back to step one.
18. You will allow me a certain amount of success, exposure, visibility, agency, self-esteem, but beyond a certain point is too much.
For some reason, people who are not me seem to be self-appointed experts on where the limits should be placed for me. These people always bend over backwards to assure me they are feminists too. I do not accept your limits. Keep those for yourself. Go back to step one.
19. I am threatening and scary.
Ideas that truly challenge the status quo – especially if the status quo is illegal and immoral – will always be threatening and scary. If it doesn’t make you feel unsafe, it’s probably not fresh and challenging enough. Go back to step one.
20. I don’t care about your feelings.
You’re right. I don’t care about your feelings. Go back to step one.
21. Why me?
I have deliberately put myself in the position to succeed through a long series of calculated risks, directed action, trusting intuition and creative leaps. All the moves I have made are available to you as well. The answer to “why me” is because I made them. You can too. Go back to step one.
22. Who do I think I am?
I have a healthy amount of self-esteem, not too much and not too little. But I frequently get accused of being a narcissist, just like almost every whistleblower who has attempted to pull back the curtain on controversial, secret and wrongdoing subjects throughout history. It’s easier to attack and tear down the messenger who is speaking (“who does she think she is?”) than attack the huge benevolent corporations who give all of us jobs (or those of us who are white and male anyway). Go back to step one.
23. You are jealous of me.
As someone who also experiences jealousy and envy, I know what a bitter and painful feeling it is. What’s great is it’s actually a sign you’re on the right track. You are waking up. If before you were so numb to your own feelings you had no idea what you wanted – your compass was just spinning – now at least the needle is pointing in a direction. You have someone to point to and say “her. I want what she has.” Especially if you are a woman, this couldn’t be more important. When you don’t see anyone doing what you want to do, you are not likely to take those first steps down the path. But when there’s someone out there and you can be *jealous* of her … well now you’ve got something to work with. But here’s the thing – I know the feeling can be overwhelming and scary. But you don’t have to let me know about it. If anything, letting me know will make you feel worse because it will then make you feel like I know a secret about you. Instead, check out Julia Cameron’s brilliant book The Artist’s Way. She talks about how to use jealousy as a map to show you your own desires. Go back to step one.
24. I don’t deserve my success.
This is one of the stupidest of many stupid reasons to contact me. Some day I will publish my memoir Adventures In The Peen Trade, and y’all will all understand exactly how much I deserve my success. Go back to step one.
25. I don’t follow the rules.
There are no rules. Anyone who wants you to believe there are rules in Hollywood is an idiot who probably won’t last in this business. This whole town is a long con and those who excel at it are those most skilled at getting loose, reading the lay of the land, judging just how much play there is in any boundary, being able to judge where the real boundaries lie. There are certainly norms that people follow, but sometimes it benefits you to not follow the norms. The only real rule is knowing who the players are at any given time, and where you are in the game. Go back to step one.
26. I slut-shame.
Only people who believe in and endorse patriarchal notions of sexual shame try to hit me with this bullshit. I start talking about some gross, predatory and sexist behavior on the part of a group of Hollywood men, then instead of everyone being like “yeah, that’s a deeply rooted problem that’s keeping a large group of people from moving forward in this town” they come at me for “slut-shaming.” Morons. Go back to step one.
27. I am not a perfect feminist.
There is no perfect way to practice or espouse feminism. Men who have colonized feminism as yet another site for their self-aggrandizement and gain want you to believe that Imperfect Feminism is a legit reason to take a woman down. Go back to step one you terrible humans.
28. I am not a perfect human.
The more imperfect the human, the better the artist. Go back to step one.
29. I am sexual.
Part of the way an oppressive structure keeps minority groups oppressed is by restricting access to the full range of human qualities they are allowed to exhibit. So for instance, black women are not allowed to exhibit anger without suffering consequences. All women are socially prohibited from exhibiting sexual behavior. Adhering to these prohibitions is a silent handshake with the patriarchy – a dark agreement saying “no, you’re right to restrict my life and expression.” Resisting the limits they place on us is a political act. Me showing off about being sexual is me getting political AND me using their vulnerability against them. It’s like jujitsu. The more freedom you exercise, the more freedom you get. Do not attempt to restrict the freedom of others. Go back to step one.
30. I reveal secrets.
The more secretive the landscape, the easier it is to discriminate. Think: country clubs, Ivy League, Hollywood. Revealing secrets helps those who are being discriminated against. There is power in revealing secrets. If y’all know anything about me, y’all know I love power. I know secrets, and I’m good at knowing which secrets I can reveal, and which secrets it does not behoove me to reveal. Yet. More will be revealed. Go back to step one.
31. You are projecting into what I’m saying.
Projection is when you find qualities in yourself so intolerable that instead of acknowledging them in yourself, you see them in others around you. Go back to step one.
32. You don’t understand what I’m saying.
This is the cause of many difficulties I experience. I truly think some of you just don’t understand me. Go back to step one.
33. You are twisting or mischaracterizing what I’m saying.
This happens deliberately to make me look bad, and it happens when idiots don’t actually follow the thread but pick out what looks like it may be the most controversial little strand and then grab it and start crowing about what a monster I am because — “look! The permanent black light we have set up over her entire perimeter exposed this tiny radioactive thread that looks like it could be deadly if we drag it through something deadly, like at the CDC or something.” Go back to step one.
34. You are an untraveled rube who has never left the country.
Leave the country. You will gain perspective that will show you how backwards American perspectives really are. Go back to step one.
35. I am thirsty.
Have you heard of the attention economy? Go back to step one.
36. I post too many selfies / opinions / too much about politics / not enough about politics / too much about how rich I am / too much about how poor I am / too much
An attention economy that privileges men over women will always punish women for taking some of that precious attention for themselves. Go back to step one.
37. We matched on a dating site so you sent me a long email.
I match with everyone because I don’t have time to sit there and waste my decision fatigue looking at each profile and deciding whether to like the photo or not. I just swipe right on everyone then filter out later. The appropriate response to me not writing you back is to move on and not think about it – not find my email address posted online and send me a long email asking me to nurture your stupid baby feelings. Thousands of years of history are wrong: I am not required to caretake your feelings in any way. I do not care about your stupid precious feelings. Go back to step one.
38. You don’t like me.
The logical thing to do if you don’t like someone is contact them, post about them ad nauseum, follow them from multiple dummy accounts after they’ve blocked you, invent stories about their job in the hope that may scare them and they may give up screenwriting. Go back to step one fool.
39. You feel confused about me.
Chances are you are a mostly decent person who has just begun stepping down the path toward waking up. I do understand that some of the ideas I espouse seem challenging, hostile or scary at first. The more you work with them, the more you will see they are actually logical and natural, and it’s thousands of years of stealing-culture that makes it seem like women shouldn’t rise up and overthrow. No need to let me know you feel confused however. I am not a teacher. I have a job. Let the ideas work on you, and soon you’ll be working them on someone else.
40. I seem to represent change and that scares you.
Perhaps if you stop me, you can stop the threat that change represents. But arguing with change doesn’t stop it from happening. It’s like arguing with time passing. Go back to step one.
41. It’s slowly dawning on you that I might actually be more talented than you.
That doesn’t seem possible. And yet … ? How can we make this problem go away? Bully her online till she gives up and leaves Hollywood? Go back to step one.
42. You don’t like what I said on my periscope.
Stop watching. Go back to step one.
43. You’re concerned about me.
The term “concern-troll” was coined to describe people who try to infiltrate causes posing as supporters who are concerned about the group’s activities, while in reality the concern-troll is trying to derail and subvert the group’s goals. People have concern-trolls too. Go back to step one.
44. You think you can help me.
This is a form of well-meaning concern-trolling that I call “help-trolling.” I don’t think help-trolls think of themselves as trolls. I think they genuinely think they are offering assistance. But I’ve noticed that help-trolls love to get in touch when there’s an appearance that things aren’t going well for me — aka trolls are spreading stories about me they completely made up in their imaginations. And then the help-trolls are right there ready to help out in any way they can (when in reality nothing is wrong except that I have a bunch of trolls making up weird stories about me). They’re like help-vultures. The trolls are able to spread weird stories about me when I’m in a space where I can’t talk about anything (in the middle of a project). When I’m busy talking about a new job, all is silent out there on the savanna. I think this is also a form of White Knight Syndrome. Go back to step one.
45. You want to offer me a job or opportunity.
I am represented at UTA. The front desk there can help you. “I don’t want to go through your agents.” Then your “opportunity” is almost certainly not something I would consider an “opportunity.” But feel free to send me an email about your movie that just needs my help [to completely re-create] before it gets set up that I will barely skim at the gym and wonder what people are thinking before I never respond. Go back to step one.
46. You want to hit on me.
Look, if you think we are well-matched, and I am single, then I’m open. There are a thousand ways to contact me. Do it. IF you sincerely think we are well-matched. Big if.
47. You think I’m not a good representative of my category and you want me to shut up / back down / go away.
Why do I have to be in a category? Why do I have to fit within my category and you don’t have to stay within yours? Fuck you you fucking idiot. Go back to step one.
48. You are an activist and you don’t like how I represent the cause / my experience / myself.
Tough shit. The universal is found in the specific. You don’t get to control how I represent myself publicly. You represent yourself, I’ll represent myself, and together we’ll present a diverse portrait of what it’s like here on the ground. Go back to step one.
49. You feel like I’m ignoring you online even though we are friends in meatspace.
This one’s actually real. If I have missed liking your shit online lately, that means nothing for our real relationship or how I feel about you. It either means I haven’t been on, or haven’t seen your specific stuff, or I’ve been distracted. It means nothing about how I feel about you, whom I probably adore.
50. You have a question you could easily google — or a question you would literally have to pay someone to answer.
51. You have an extremely thin excuse for contacting me – apologizing for some imaginary wrong-doing, offering some tiny carrot of a favor that you know will be hard for me to ignore, etc.
Sigh. I am busy and getting busier. Making movies is incredibly difficult. It’s complex. It’s draining. The process of actually making a movie is as difficult as the process of creating and working on the movie. Every time you contact me with some flimsy excuse, you are taking time and attention away from my movie. Does that make you feel good? Does that make you feel like we are becoming closer? Now, if you are contacting me for legitimate reasons, then I want to hear from you. If we are dating, all bets are off. If we are friends and making plans, great. Or if we are friends and haven’t connected in a while, glad to hear from you. If we are working together or may work together, then I probably always want to hear from you. Otherwise – my time and attention don’t belong to you. Despite what you may have heard, women aren’t obliged to caretake others’ needs all day. You are stealing my time and attention. Fuck off. Go back to step one.
52. You want to make my own joke back to me or explain it to me.
This is a phenomenon all women online know about. Just assume that I do understand that I am making a joke – and that I got it when I wrote it. Go back to step one.
53. You assume that what I’m saying is about you.
It almost never is. Usually, if I’m talking about you, you’ll know it. Especially if it’s good. Go back to step one.
54. You want to tell me someone’s saying terrible things about me.
This one’s tough because on the one hand, I want my friends and periscope followers to know how much I love and appreciate them. I know y’all mean the best and are trying to help. But so often, I only hear about trolling from people close to me who mean the best. So it’s like “hey, thought you’d want this punch in the eye …”
55. I am not passive, submissive and demure.
So many of the border clashes I experience online boil down to this fact. People have an unconscious expectation that women should submit to men. And when they experience behavior that flouts that expectation, they experience an urge to correct her. Go back to step one.
56. I take credit for my contributions, ideas and my work.
Every person deserves credit for their contributions, ideas and work. Self-actualized people will stand up for themselves and take credit even if no one offers it to them. Our culture is so used to women giving credit to others, or hesitating to take credit for anything they accomplish, that seeing a woman unabashedly take credit for what she does makes people angry. Go back to step one.
57. I am comfortable taking attention in a climate that shits on women getting attention for anything other than sexual or gender-coded behavior.
Part of how men have stayed dominant and in power all these years is by culturally enslaving women. Punishing them when they move outside submissive and supporting roles. Taking attention for themselves instead of passing it to others. Part of building a Hollywood career is building a network of fans of your work who will call you when they want to make a movie. When you see me taking attention for myself – and you have an urge to punish or shut me down for that – please know that urge comes from an overwhelming cultural history that needs women to be less so that men can be more. Go back to step one.
58. You want to tell me to be positive when I talk about marginalized, highly suppressed ideas.
“Be positive” is code for “you are seriously bumming us out. Why can’t you just smile and be happy like the other girls? Life, as we dominant white men have enjoyed it for the past 10,000 years, is relatively easy. People constantly help you, so much that we internalize their help as a natural right and don’t even notice it happening. The help we receive is as natural to us as the air we breathe. So when the non-dominant groups around us complain they are not getting the same kind of help, and some are even getting policed, imprisoned and murdered … well that’s just a major bummer man. Can’t we all just get along? Be positive.” Go back to step one.
59. You want me to know that everyone has problems, not just women.
There is no hierarchy of suffering. Me talking about the fact that 70% of the world’s poor are women doesn’t take away relevance from Great White Men dying of prostate cancer. You are unused to hearing a member of a marginalized group speak as if she were dominant. Get used to it, cuz this is gonna be happening to you more and more and more from here on in. Go back to step one.
60. You want my advice.
This one’s tough because there is indeed a culture of advice-giving in Hollywood. I have certainly benefited from the advice of many more experienced filmmakers than me, and I am grateful to them. But sometimes people come to you asking for advice when really they want something else (see any number of the other points on this list). Or they may sincerely want advice, and if they are not far enough along on the journey, nothing I say will be particularly helpful. I get this sometimes in my periscope comments. I can be most useful with targeted questions from people making a sincere go at building a writing career in Hollywood. I’m not far enough along yet as a director to give advice, but I’ll certainly take some please.
61. You want us to collaborate.
I write alone. When you have an urge for us to collaborate, really you want me to do all the work (and most often I’m the one with the professional brand name too) and then you want to draft off that. No thanks. Go back to step one.
62. You want to work on one of my projects.
I’ll call you. Go back to step one.
63. I am crazy.
Historically, men have called women crazy whenever they begin to gain visibility, power, voice. Whenever they start getting heard. It’s the most culturally powerful tool the patriarchy has to neutralize the threat we represent. Because how can you defend against people whispering behind your back that you’re crazy (so that no one will listen to or believe a thing you say)? You can’t exactly say “no I’m not!” If you care about resistance, if you care about suffering, if you care about seeing oppressed voices rise to be heard, please be skeptical whenever you hear an advocate called “crazy.” Go back to step one.
64. You want me to do the kind of unpaid, silent, invisible emotional labor that women have been trained to do for others for thousands of years.
We are so conditioned to believe that it’s women’s nature to be better at feelings, to nurture others, to smooth over conflicts, to caretake, to do figurative and literal housekeeping, to serve and dote over — when in fact, studies have repeatedly found there is nothing in our nature to make us better at these jobs. Culture conditions us to think we have to do them, or we are consigned to keeping busy doing these roles when we are shut out of dominant roles. And the more we do them and see other women do them, the more we assume it’s our nature to do them. It’s not. Refusing to take on the emotional work people continually hand you will make people mad. People are used to people like you doing this kind of work for free and no credit! People getting mad is ok. Get used to it. That’s how you move forward in life. If you are coming to me hoping to conscript me in your personal army of admirers, supporters, caretakers, advice-givers, readers, nurturers, emotional housekeepers, well, think again pal. Go back to step one.
I thought of even more reasons people contact me. Update 11/22/15
65. I am a hypocrite.
Stupid people accuse you of being a hypocrite if you have ever showed signs of changing your mind, or if your position appears nuanced and grey in any way. “Hypocrite!” is also one of those Internet Debate tactics where it appears the other person is debating but really they’re just wearing you down by distracting you with some junk about debate they read on Reddit. Go back to step one.
66. I am difficult.
It’s well known now that women filmmakers are called difficult just by doing their jobs. Most of the job of being a screenwriter and director (I am both) is having opinions, defending those opinions and asking others to execute those opinions. A woman defending and executing opinions – when millions are at stake – quickly gets perceived as “difficult” because humans have been socialized to believe that women should be obeying and respecting, not executing. This upset happens on a primal, visceral level. Then they call you “difficult.” Go back to step one.
67. You want me to work for free.
There is a sick tradition in Hollywood of getting screenwriters to work for free or cut-rate (while everyone else on set gets paid). My days of working for free are over. If you are contacting me cuz you’re trying to work some con where I work for free aka I personally finance your movie and personally shoulder the risk so you get the chance to get rich, think again. I’m too smart for you. Go back to step one.
68. You want me to write free treatments.
Treatments are pointless and stupid. They don’t help me write screenplays. All they do is help you, the producer, feel better emotionally. That’s it. You are asking me to spend weeks or a month or many months of my work time and life to produce a document or documents whose only purpose is to make you feel better emotionally. Go back to step one.
69. You think I copied your idea.
Filmmakers are always being accused of copying people’s ideas. Some are even sued for it. It’s well known in Hollywood that many ideas are just in the air at a certain time, meaning an idea whose time has come is usually being talked about in many different circles at once and reaches a tipping point or series of tipping points where it reaches the mainstream through a series of mediators who spread it to wider and wider audiences. It’s not the idea that matters, it’s the execution. Tarantino was a revelation when he brought his fresh vision to audiences in the 90’s (which recombined ideas of many other filmmakers), and then a slew of imitators followed. If your work is truly original, no one can copy you. No one can execute like you. No one remembers Tarantino’s imitators. No one will forget Tarantino.
70. You want to send me a pic of your dick.
Your dick pics are always gross and laughable. Go back to step one.
71. You want to kiss me / fuck me / make me your phone girlfriend / fall in love with me even though you are not available to give me what I want.
You are stealing my soul. Fuck off. Go back to step one.
72. You must require that I not harass you further.
This was the wording of a response to this original post. The person received it in her email and didn’t realize she had signed up for my email list and didn’t know this was a blog post. So she didn’t know why I was writing this to her. But I thought this phrase was perfect. This is how Hollywood feels toward outsiders, troublemakers, whistleblowers … anyone rocking the boat. They think they can just draw the curtain between First Class and Coach – say “we must require that you not harass us further” and speak of us no more. Too bad fuckos. It’s too late for that. Go back to step one.
73. I am over-dramatizing the story.
People who are close to me IRL often accuse me of over-dramatizing the story. Like, if I told a story online and then they ask about it, I’m forced to admit “I may have oversold it a bit.” But did I really? I am a filmmaker. I am a compulsive storyteller. It’s what I do to pay the bills and it’s what I do to pay passage across this corrupt River Styx called life. If I convey information and provoke emotion or a reaction, have I really ever oversold a story? Is there such a thing as over-dramatizing? Or is there just dramatizing. And are we just numb to feeling. Go back to step one.